Thoughts of crush with an urge to reach out to him to see how he's doing flooding my mind this morning as I woke up. Memories of his voice and smile make me want to contact him. I'm thinking why? I'm floundering for a focal point, a familiar and comfortable attention object. Reliable with certainty. Comfort in the known constant chaos.
I have new chaos sprinkling in starting to flood my area and this new chaos is uncomfortable because it's not familiar to me. These attention objects I have clung to trying not to see them as lifesaving implements; I have been using them to try to save me. I have been working on saving myself but still have a want to have a constant focal point. Scared. First time I am feeling really alone. Afraid those in my outer circle are there in their permanent places because they aren't and never meant to come to my inner circle, my inner space. Today's mantra I've been repeat writing this morning, "Let go & see, flow, relax, trust. Give & receive heart & soul, heal old stories." So I really need to trust fall here and commit to trust falling with my heart and soul. On my fet profile along with the attachment theory subject I included, "If wanting a deeper connection with me-do your trauma work and work on your insecure attachments because if you're going to lose interest as I gain interest then my interest in any further conversations/connections is going to be zero. Otherwise I'm ok with light passing by flirty connections!" Easy checks and balance for me especially with those that don't show or want a deeper connection with me, there is no need to waste my energy. Sharing myself to those that wish to not see me or share themselves with me is a waste of time and energy. Wow maybe this is an old story? Tit for tat? Do others as they do me? I don't know. And because I don't know is why I think I have this strong desire to reach out to him, my 20 year crush. Because I know that dance, he gives enough to distract me from my current chaos of my life. Frightening when realized I almost replaced my 20 year crush with another. Same story. Getting comfortable in the good enough this is it dance. Take the little comfortable bits because pining is what is comfortable and what I had done best. Reliability would be scary. This is what I am needing; I'm tired and scared just want one place somewhere to call 'home'. A safe place I can run to anytime even if for a little while. I could just stop running, hold fast, hug self and trust fall. Let go and see what Spirit has in store for me, better than my imagination? My time now to learn to flow and relax even if the flood is starting to feel like it's turning into a tidal wave; draw in a deep breath, hold still and let go of focal points. Close eyes and set sights inward. New attention object, new focal point; self.
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AuthorReleasing some steam. You should want to know me, not just a woman with pent up passion. Oh yea and you should start this from the beginning. |